Whoa! That happened so fast!

Where did childhood go, so suddenly?

And why does it feel like every new day hides a new responsibility I didn’t even sign up for?
Where did all of these challenges come from? This is…hard.

But…I’m an “adult!”

Adulting, while often a catch-all seen in memes, is no joke. Beyond humor and comiseration, it’s also a practical and necessary aspect of life.

In one sense, this whole site is about adulting. It aims to teach the many skills about how to live a good life that are often missed in school: how to date, how to make and keep friends, how to consider life’s big questions, how to be grateful…And on and on. (a virtual compendium of subjects)

Sure, coming of age is as old as, well, people.
But the 21st century, our brave new information age, has brought with it a host of unprecedented challenges. Many of the obstacles faced by today’s adults are completely new and unique. And baffling.

We have exceptional material wealth, and yet face a modern crisis of meaning.
We have more convenience than ever, but seem to have so little time to spare.

Look around online, and much of the content on the internet related to adulting will be shallow or vapid, focusing on trivial things like how to make the perfect avocado toast or decorate your apartment with succulents.

While it can be affirming to share in the surprising novelties that come with age, there is also a need to be practical and serious about our modern adult challenges.

That is why you’re here.

Assess Your Adulting Skills

The Assessment Center is the largest, most comprehensive well-being self-assessment on the web.
With it, you can measure 50+ factors of well-being, many in the ‘adulting’ realm. Check it out, and see where your strengths and growth zones are.

This page is a launchpad to a handful of uniquely modern challenges of “adulting.”
For each subject, you’ll find a collection of pages filled with content: theory, research, tips, and more. Most sections will have collections of exercises and further resources, too, some of which can be accessed with a subscription.

There will also be a few books, videos, and articles here that cover adulting generally.Enjoy!

Adulting Sections


This is the largest section here in Adulting. It’s an extensive exploration of the modern paradox of time management. You’ll find ample theory, how-to’s, and exercises for overcoming the time crunch of 21st-century life.

Wisdom & Maturity

What is ‘wisdom?’ This topic is as important as it is broad. This section will explore the ins and outs of what makes a person wise and mature, how to tell the difference, and how to practice the skills of wisdom.

Habits, Scheduling, & Kaizen

You probably already know the importance of the first two:
“You do not rise to the level of your goals, you fall to the level of your systems.” – James Clear
Kaizen is a compound of two Japanese words that together translate as “good change” or “improvement.” It is the practice of improving yourself or a process by taking small, incremental, daily actions, which then form habits that stick.


Physical health is massive. And here, you’ll find it simplified into just a few simple virtues: eat, sleep, move, and breathe.

Media & Attention

Who’d have thought that it would be such a constant threat on our lives? Media is now everywhere. We are saturated in voices that are competing for our attention.
So this section is about how to brave the storm: daily, weekly, and as the century progresses.

Self-Efficacy & Autonomy

You can do it! Well, that’s what they say. And, do you really believe it?Self-Efficacy is one’s confidence in their ability to exert control over their own motivation, behaviour, and environment. And autonomy is one’s actual control over their life.
Let’s explore how to cultivate them.

Risk Orientation & Skill

Risk is part of life. There are entire sections on Fear, Challenge, and Hope on this site, and risk is a motif throughout them.
This section will be a practice course on how to wisely assess risk within one’s life, from everyday risks, to planned risks, to surprise risks.


Integrity means creating and living your life in alignment with your values on an interpersonal AND intrapersonal level. Integrity is the integration of ideals, convictions, standards, beliefs—and behavior.
This page breaks it down from point A to point B.


It’s not just bubble baths and exfoliation. Self-Care is a practical, implementable reflection of Self-Love, self-efficacy, and self-esteem.Learn the do’s, don’ts, and everything in between.


Below is a small collection of some resources from around the web.Remember, however, that you’ll find most of the resources within each section.


A few general articles:

Adulting Lists



Your Turn: How to Be an Adult
In the twentieth century, psychologists came up with five markers of adulthood: finish your education, get a job, leave home, marry, and have children. Since then, every generation has been held to those same markers. Yet so much has changed about the world and living in it since that sequence was formulated. All of those markers are choices, and they’re all valid, but any one person’s choices along those lines do not make them more or less an adult.

A Visual Learner’s Guide to Being a Grown-Up
A book of infographics on adult life.

Dear Me: A Letter to My Sixteen-Year-Old Self
Nuggets of wisdom offered by an Academy Award–nominated actor (James Woods), a popular comedian (Aasif Mandvi), and a world-famous novelist (Jodi Picoult) to their sixteen-year-old selves.

Folded Wisdom: Notes from Dad on Life, Love, and Growing Up
A father collects colorful notes for his teenage daughters over years, and published them into a book.

How to Survive The Modern World
Making sense of, and finding calm in, unsteady times. A guide that explores the challenges living in the 21st century can pose to our mental wellbeing.


Plenty of fluff exists on the subject of ‘adulting.’ There is no shortage of platitudes.

To really practice the wisdom, habits, and patterns of adulting, we recommend reading through sections on this site. And remember it’s a life-long practice!

And, here are a couple of videos that are on the more helpful side of ‘adulting.’ One is shorter, and the other more comprehensive and insightful.

20 ADULTING Life Hacks We Don’t Learn in School
Youtuber Maya Lee touches on jobs, money, and life habits. Tasty little adulting morsels.

How To Be An Adult with Julie Lythcott-Haims
This over-2-hour interview covers a lot of topics. They helpful start looking at adulting from an angle of parenting and raising resilient, successful adults.