Intentional Speech Resources

In the spirit of Intentional Speech, we’ll share a curated collection of online resources. These resources will compliment your skills from this section in valuable ways.

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Elaboration on Skills from this Section

Other and Related Articles

The One Conversational Tool that Will Make You Better at Absolutely Everything – How to ask questions well, by Forbes.
Why Are Some Words More Persuasive than Others? – a deep article, with detail and subtlety around the use of even simple words and their effect on our brains.
Does Anyone ‘Deserve’ Anything – An insightful article relating Intentional Speech and Compassionate Communication by viewing the language of rights and the language of needs.
A Scientific Guide to Saying ‘No’ – How to avoid temptation and distraction.
How to Translate ‘I Wish I Could’ Into Actual Results – Make and intention statement, get the first one done, tell people what you’re doing, do it again.
Methods for Saying No – Explain why, exude grace and gratitude, never apologize, do it constructively, be direct and concise, say no quickly, and more.
How a Popular 2-Letter Word is Undermining Your Credibility – “So”, and how it insults your audience and undermines your credibility.
What Self-Awareness Really Is (and How to Cultivate It) – Four self-awareness archetypes and relating language to self-awareness.
A Thousand Ways to Say, “I Love You” – Different ways to say one of the most important things.
Science Says: Words Matter – A Plus One from Brian Johnson, this 1.5-min video mentions a fascinating study involving crosswords.

Videos

A hilarious poem exemplifying modern internet language that says very little. (5 min)

A vlogger explains why they stopped using the word ‘should’. (5 min)

Removing weak words from our vocabulary. (2 min)

Books

Much of the ‘achievement habits’ in this book are based in intentional use of language.

A book about the power of words, and how to respect and wield that power.

A thorough, nuts-and-bolts guide to becoming aware and taking control of how you communicate to others.

Language is approached as a spiritual practice based on giving and receiving with compassion. This book pulls from Yogic and Buddhist concepts.

Drawing from NVC, this book offers practical tools that match recognizable work scenarios, helping positively affect work relationships and company culture.

Compassionate Communication

Also known as Nonviolent Communication or ‘NVC’, this is a not only a way of communicating, but a way of understanding yourself and others, and a way of being as a force of love in the world. Excellent for relationships and conflict mitigation especially.

100% Responsibility

This section is about fostering our ability to frame all of our experiences as an invitation for growth. Our responses, included our emotions, our the responsibility of nobody but us.

Clean Communication

This is the specific practice of communicating in integrity with our most authentic wants. When we are radically honest with ourselves and others, we are embracing honesty and trust, and enabling others to do the same.

Quotes

“What we’re all striving for is authenticity, a spirit-to-spirit connection.” –Oprah Winfrey

“To speak and to speak well are two things.  A fool may talk, but a wise man speaks.”  –Ben Jonson

“If you wouldn’t write it and sign it, don’t say it.” –Earl Wilson

 “Verbosity leads to unclear, inarticulate things.” –Dan Quayle

“Gaining mastery over our destructive propensities, through the exercise of awareness and self-discipline with regard to our body, speech, and mind, frees us from the inner turmoil that naturally arises when our behaviour is at odds with our ideals. In place of this turmoil come confidence, integrity, and dignity – heroic qualities all human beings naturally aspire to.” -the Dalai Lama

“The words we attach to our experience become our experience.” – Anthony Robbins

“It’s clear to me that we cannot truly change how we communicate unless we think differently. In the other direction, making a conscious choice about which words I do or don’t use, when and how, has had the astonishing effect of restructuring my thinking.” Miki Kashtan

“If you don’t go after what you want, you’ll never have it. If you don’t ask, the answer is always no. If you don’t step forward, you’re always in the same place.” – Nora Roberts

“When man determined to destroy
himself he picked the was
of shall and finding only why
smashed it into because.”
– E. E. Cummings