There’s a very, very, VERY important distinction to be made. Ready? Here it is:
Clean Communication is not the same as Compassionate Communication
That is totally normal and valid. And there are tools to help us communicate more effectively.
Clean communication is specifically about communicating more and striving for authenticity. It aims to simplify and clarify lapses in communication by putting words where there is sometimes only passive aggression, subtle implications, or avoided conversations.
You can be cleanly communicating and not be compassionate, or polite, or any other number of things. In fact, clean communication can be downright hostile.
So, while the philosophy of clean communication gives us reasons to communicate, that communication still may not be in line with our values we choose to practice. Which means that clean communication is only one piece of the Big Communication and Compassion Puzzle. Other tools, such as Non-Violent Communication, can help one bring their thoughts and actions more in line with their values.
While you are being clean, think carefully about how this can be balanced with compassion.
By assuming that: Honesty in thought, action and communication is more important that being polite or ‘respectful’.
There is potential for: Greater freedom in thought and action. This provides an opportunity for understanding.
By assuming that: Humans have universal feelings and needs
There is potential for: A capacity for empathy, as we can see ourselves in others; our feelings and needs are theirs, too
Clean Communication provides reasons for communicating your thoughts.
It allows for a greater sense of freedom in thought and action.
Nonviolent Communication provides a model for how to communicate those thoughts in a compassionate way.
It allows those freedoms to be expressed in line with your values.