What sort of freedom are we talking about?
Physical freedoms are fantastically helpful in creating a meaningful life.
They allow a broader range of discovery/exploration, expression, service opportunities, and ready choice in how to express/display love.
And, physical freedom is not the focus here.
Of greater importance is freedom of mind/thought.
These chains can be hard to recognize, and sometimes it’s equally hard to free oneself from them.
So this page is a launching pad for the insights and tools/skills that enhance our sense of freedom in life.
Below, you’ll find a short description of some related pages. You can click the button for each to explore that subject.
The Elephant and the Rope
Take this story for example.
A number of years ago, I had the rather unique experience of being backstage in Madison Square Garden, in New York, during the Ringling Brothers Barnum & Bailey Circus. To say the least, it was a fascinating experience. I was able to walk around looking at the lions, tigers, giraffes and all the other circus animals. As I was passing the elephants, I suddenly stopped, confused by the fact that these huge creatures were being held by only a small rope tied to their front leg. No chains, no cages. It was obvious that the elephants could, at any time, break away from their bonds but for some reason, they did not. I saw a trainer near by and asked why these beautiful, magnificent animals just stood there and made no attempt to get away.
“Well,” he said, “when they are very young and much smaller we use the same size rope to tie them and, at that age, it’s enough to hold them. As they grow up, they are conditioned to believe they cannot break away. They think the rope can still hold them, so they never try to break free.“
I was amazed. These animals could at any time break free from their bonds but because they believed they could not, they were stuck right where they were.
Like the elephants, how many of us go through life hanging onto a belief that we cannot do something, simply because we failed at it once before? How many of us are being held back by old, outdated beliefs that no longer serve us?
Freedom of mind/thought is the vessel that welcomes change, growth, joy, flourishing, happiness…
Below are the children pages of our section on Freedom. Each contains skills that will help you live a life of more awareness, flexibility, and joy. Click around and see what you learn!
Now, how do we relate to it? Are there ways to reduce suffering? Can we allow it with more ease?
This page and its many child pages is like a directory of ‘Poisons’ and ‘Antidotes’ for experiencing emotional/mental suffering.
When you mind and heart match your words and your deeds.
Clean Communication is the belief that direct, open and honest communications in words and deeds with ourselves and others fosters a culture of connection and understanding.
What might one gain by being clean?
- Trust / Understanding / Curiosity / Integrity
- Equality / Mutual Contribution / Teamwork / Working Together
- Investment / Passion / Self-Growth / Feedback
- Support / Love / Courage / Truth
In 100% Responsibility, we start to think of responsibility as ‘self-mastery’ or the knowledge that our experience of the world is subject to our beliefs.
100% Responsibility is an attempt to delete the words fault and blame from our minds and hearts.
“Everyone thinks of changing the world, but no one thinks of changing himself.” Leo Tolstoy
Your Storied Life
Your ‘reality’ is a combination of the objective reality we all live in, and the lived experience you have within it.
‘Your Storied Life’ is a concept that will explore how we form our notion of reality; relating what happens with what happens in us.
We’ll learn about LIMN’s (Limiting Narratives), how to escape from rumination, and more.
Why do we compare ourselves to others? It seems relentless and automatic. And, it turns out, there are important biological reasons for it.
But for modern humans, it gets way, way out of hand.
Let’s learn the why’s and how’s for dealing with Social Comparison.
Right and Wrong
Understanding our tendency and the tenacious effects of framing the world in right/wrong.
Sure, many emotionally intelligent people understand the relativity of human perspective. My ‘yes’ may be another person’s ‘no’.
But what more? What does that mean about how we relate to the world in general? How can I take the understanding of experience as relative into my relationships and communication with others?
An important aspect of maturity, living with our conscience, and working well with others.
Integrity is key.
When we embody it, our confidence grows, our relationships work better, and we are more productive and enjoyable.
Let’s look at the why’s and how’s of Integrity.
Wall of Cool
Cool kills.Stops a person from living. From following their heart and their passions in a given moment. In teens, and even younger, as well as young adults, the impulse caused by Cool is frequently presented as a “Wall of Cool.” A big, plain, vanilla, veneer (though its appearance may be flashy, blingy, designer, and jewel-studded) that plants itself like an imposing dam in the middle of the river of life.
Usually this spirit-killing phenomenon can be described in one word: No. An opportunity arises that may elicit feelings of beauty, wonder, awe, or surprise. No.
Cool is the distance between your true, authentic self and your presented self (and that presentation may be to yourself).
Dance like no one is watching,
Live like you’ll never be hurt
Sing like no one is listening
Live like it’s heaven on earth.
– William Purkey
Change One's Mind
It’s always easier said than done.
How do we really shift our perspective? Can our outlook on a person, event, or idea change? Can we harness that change?
These tips will promote flexibility in how you relate to the world. With practice, we can live with creative ease, welcoming change and growing proactively.
The Creative Brain vs. the Reactive Brain
Learn the difference between a “To Me” and a “By Me” perspective.
This difference can be the key to owning your experience and choosing, vs floating and letting life happen to you.
The Power of Perspective
Sometimes, all it takes is a broadened context to clarify the problems in our life.
In fact, often this is the case.
This page will give you some tips for scaling your perspective, remembering the future and past intentionally, and letting the small stuff go. And, yes, it’s all small stuff.