This website contains so many subjects, all with a central theme: improving mental well-being with science-based wisdom.
You’ll find pages for each subject, and different subjects grouped in categories reflected by helpful models of well-being.

This page is a launchpad to the subjects categorized as “Enablers.”

The Enablers to a Life Well-Lived

Enablers refer to the skills, tools, and philosophies that can enable living with more purpose, intention, and joy.

You can think of enablers as a collection of general skills that enhance living well. They aren’t the roots of well-being per se.
They are more like the tools on your tool belt of skills for better living. They aid in getting the most out of one’s sources of meaning and “happiness.”

Some of these subjects are well-known, like Mindfulness or Gratitude. And others, like Intentional Speech or Clean Communication, are original and can only be found on this site.
All of the Enablers offer valuable skills to the practitioner who considers, reflects, and implements them in their life.

Whether widely known or new, each Enabler subject will offer you its own unique writings and models. There is the equivalent of a book’s worth of information within each of many subjects here.
And most of these subjects contain a collection of links, videos, and books, as well as practice and exercises.

Assess Your Factors of Well-Being

Measure over 50 factors of your well-being.
Uncover your Strengths and Growth Zones, and track your results over time.
Most enablers have subfactors (more than 90 specific subfactors to illuminate your nuanced relationships with the enablers).

The Top Enablers

Notably, it is case-dependent.
Depending on who, where, when, and how you are, any one of the Enablers on this page may be a more significant uplift for your life than the “Top” ones below. (Use the Assessment Center to learn where your growth zones are.)

And, generally speaking, the following handful carry the most potential for affecting your well-being.

And it bears repeating: Enablers aren’t everything. They are powerful tools, but not the core of one’s well-being. If you don’t have strong relationships scaffolding a sense of meaning in your life, for example, then that is what most calls for cultivation to improve your well-being.

Challenge

“It’s not that I’m so smart, it’s just that I stay with problems longer.” – Albert Einstein

Challenge is everywhere. How we respond to it when it shows up is a skill that can be practiced.

In this section you can muse over all of the various elements of challenge: choice, resilience, asking for help, our perception of challenge, connecting challenge to play, challenge as a journey, and a lot more.

The “Town of Challenge” is an extensive visual metaphor, explained on the landing page for the section.

Town of Challenge - A navigational visual metaphor for the role of Challenge in life.

Gratitude

“Curing the negatives does not produce the positives.” – Martin Seligman

Gratitude is like a jumpstart, a parachute, and a cheat code all wrapped into one. It isn’t a silver bullet—we need meaning to underpin our well-being holistically—but gratitude is kind of like our ability to recognize and feel the positive in our life. By building it as a habit, it’s like we cast a tighter net for catching the positive things that happen to us.

Gratitude has so many benefits.

You can see the full breakdown on the Science of Gratitude page, and/or check out the below infographic.
*Click to see the full version.*

Within the section, you’ll learn about different Types of Gratitude, how to cultivate an Attitude of Gratitude, and even how to be sincere when showing gratitude to others:

Hope

“While you can’t control your experiences, you can control your explanations.” – Martin Seligman, Learned Optimism

Hope is the skill of how we approach life. It is a combination of our willpower, our waypower, and our goals.

Hope is often confused with Optimism, but in the section you’ll learn that optimism is one subfactor of Hope.

The hope section is stacked with practices and exercises, both on-page and as printouts, and there are even several free quizzes to assess your dispositional hope.

Curiosity

Your mind is like a nose sniffing at existence. Curiosity is desiring to sniff.
Ever wonder how many curious people are curious about curiosity itself?

Mindfulness

A broad and often confusing topic, presented here with simplicity and pragmatism.

Wisdom & Maturity

The ability to use one’s knowledge, experience, and understanding to make sound and thoughtful decisions and judgments.
Wisdom often comes with age, but it can also be cultivated through learning, reflection, and consideration of different perspectives. It is valued for its ability to guide individuals in making choices that are not only rational and logical but also ethical and compassionate.

Your Storied Life

Your life is a combination of objective reality and the narratives you impose upon it.

Enablers of Freedom

100% Responsibility

This is a philosophy of radical choice. With it, we embrace the power that we possess in any moment to choose.

Allowing & Acceptance

Learn how to gracefully handle that which is unexpected or out of our control.

Grasping / Attachment / Clinging

“If it doesn’t happen my way, I won’t be happy about it.”
Sound familiar?

Changing Your Mind

One of the most under-valued skills in the world. This subject can help you discern your own openness.

The Creative Brain Vs. the Reactive Brain

How to shift between “TO me” and “BY me” world views.

Freedom From Suffering

An extensive directory of skills, tools, and meditations for allowing and reducing suffering.

The Power of Perspective

Context is extremely powerful. This page is a launchpad pointing to various tricks and tips for wielding this power skillfully.

Fundamentals

These Enablers are aspects of life that are foundational. Some of them are more objective. Some are a matter of time in a day. These enablers set the trajectory for many factors in life.

Habits, Scheduling, & Kaizen

Fit the right things, in a beneficial way, with greater ease and joy.
And learn the art of incremental progress. Baby steps. Baby steps!

Health

Eat, Sleep, Move, and Breathe. That simple? Well, almost.

Media & Attention

By now, you probably know, technology has its bright and dark sides. Let’s learn why it’s so necessary to get this under control, and how.

Peace and Security

Why it’s so important that our basic needs for safety are met.

Play

The importance of play may be easily lost to adults, but it can’t be understated.

Risk Orientation & Skill

How to get better AND know limits.
If this doesn’t save your life, it may save the life of someone you know and love.

Powerful Orientations

Awe

A “new” and useful understanding, with both inspiration and actionable qualities

Busyness

An extensive exploration of the modern paradox of time management and the experience of being busy, perhaps fulfilled and unfulfilled at the same time.

Integrity

Learn why it’s so important to be true to your word, follow through with your commitments, and even be on time.

Money

Love it or hate it, money is a tool. This section breaks down how to make the most of this tool and, importantly, understand its limits on psychological well-being.

Self-Care

Your body and mind are more valuable than the nicest sports car. So…wash, wax, and change the oil.

Self-Efficacy & Autonomy

Confide in your control over motivation, behavior, and environment, and make your outcomes happen.

Zest

What is that feeling? That ‘stuff’ that you find yourself holding when you feel truly ‘alive?’

Social & Communication

Clean Communication

When your heart and mind match your words and actions.

Compassionate Communication

Also widely known as Nonviolent Communication, this practice is a lot more than simply how to speak. It’s a way of being that enables better understanding of oneself and others, with empathy.

Email and Texting Guidelines

Learn how to sound like a pro while speaking digitally. It can makes all the difference in relationships and work.

Intentional Speech

A handful of tools for using language like a pro, removing judgment, preserving autonomy, and maintaining accuracy.

People

How relationships frame our experiences, motivate us, and contribute to meaning.

Social Comparison & Imposter Syndrome

Learn why we compare ourselves with others, what it does to us, and how to break the habit/curse. It’s natural, but this section covers its cost in detail, and practical ways of overcoming it.

The Wall of Cool

Cool: a strong compulsion, with heavy drawbacks.