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| Forgive for Good | Frederic Luskin | Book | Based on scientific research, this groundbreaking study from the frontiers of psychology and medicine offers startling new insight into the healing powers and medical benefits of forgiveness. Through vivid examples (including his work with victims from both sides of Northern Ireland’s civil war), Dr. Fred Luskin offers a proven nine-step forgiveness method that makes it possible to move beyond being a victim to a life of improved health and contentment. |
| A New Earth: Awakening Your Life’s Purpose | Ekhart Tolle
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Book | With his bestselling spiritual guide The Power of Now, Eckhart Tolle inspired millions of readers to discover the freedom and joy of a life lived “in the now.” In A New Earth, Tolle expands on these powerful ideas to show how transcending our ego-based state of consciousness is not only essential to personal happiness, but also the key to ending conflict and suffering throughout the world. Tolle describes how our attachment to the ego creates the dysfunction that leads to anger, jealousy, and unhappiness, and shows readers how to awaken to a new state of consciousness and follow the path to a truly fulfilling existence. |
| The Sunflower: On the Possibilities and Limits of Forgiveness | Simon Wiesenthal | Book | Written by holocaust survivor Simon Wiesenthal, the book explores his personal struggle with forgiveness and grief around his imprisonment in a concentration camp. The latest version of the book features over 50 responses to his thoughts from various scholars, theologians, writers and psychiatrists. |
| On Murder, Mourning, and Melancholia | Sigmund Freud | Book | An early attempt of Freud’s to grapple with the question ‘why do humans have wars?’ He answers this question through a characteristically Freudian exploration of sociology, history, mythology and, of course, psychoanalysis. In these essays, Freud outlines understandings of mourning and melancholy that will pervade American (and other) cultures for decades.
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| A Grief Observed | C.S. Lewis | Book | Influential Christian theologian and author C.S.Lewis publicly explores his journey away from, and eventually back to, his faith following the death of his wife from cancer. A powerfully written, and at times devastatingly beautiful work, it is sometimes considered the visceral ‘real world’ exploration of the more theoretical concerns he outlines twenty years earlier in his book The Problem of Pain.
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| The Forgiving Life | Robert D. Enright | Book | The Forgiving Life offers scientifically supported guidance to help people forgive those in their lives who have acted unfairly and have inflicted emotional hurt. It does not minimize the devastation of that hurt or require reconciliation with the one who inflicted the hurt. Rather, it describes a process, followed with success by people around the world, to confront the pain; rise above it to forgive; and in so doing, loosen the grip of the depression, anger, and resentment that have soured life. Noted forgiveness expert Robert D. Enright invites readers to learn the benefits of forgiveness and to embark on a path of forgiveness, leaving behind a legacy of love. Guided by thought provoking questions, engaging dialogue, and Enright’s kind encouragement, readers can chart their own journey through a new life of forgiveness. |
| Graduating from Guilt: Six Steps to Overcome Guilt | Holly Michelle Eckert | Book | Through a simple, step-by-step progression, this handbook provides individuals with the means to learn how to quiet their inner critic and to experience forgiveness, self-acceptance, and empowerment. Employing a methodology rooted in the principles of nonviolent communication, the process lays out a path for achieving freedom from toxic and emotionally draining guilt, blame, and shame. Examples of real-world situations enable individuals to visualize how they, like others, can forgive themselves for past mistakes and successfully mend broken relationships.
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| Radical Forgiveness | Colin Tipping
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Book | In Radical Forgiveness, readers join Colin for step-by-step instruction in what begins as a healing process, and culminates in a paradigm-shifting path to awakening. With this updated and revised edition, readers will discover: How to transform difficult emotions like anger, fear, and resentment into unconditional love, gratitude, and peace; The five essential stages of Radical Forgiveness, and how they help us transcend the victim archetype and embrace the inherent perfection of life ; The tools of Radical Forgiveness–a series of quick, effective, and easy-to-use techniques and processes including “Fake It`Til You Make It,” “Collapsing the Story,” “Satori Breathwork,” and more. |
| Beyond Forgiveness: Reflections on Atonement | Ed. Phil Cosineau. | Book
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As indispensable as forgiveness has been to the healing process throughout history, there is another equally profound action that is needed for ultimate reconciliation, which Arun Gandhi, grandson of Mohandas Gandhi, calls “the other side of the coin.” Turning over the coin of forgiveness, we discover atonement, the half-hidden, much-overlooked other half of the reconciliation process. Beyond Forgiveness shows how acts of atonement—making amends, providing restitution, restoring balance—can relieve us of the pain of the past and give us a hopeful future. This rich and powerful book includes 15 thoughtful contributions by high-profile thinkers and activists. |
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| The Power of Forgiveness | Martin Doblmeier | DVD | The Power of Forgiveness explores recent research into the psychological and physical effects of forgiveness on individuals and within relationships under a wide variety of conditions and translates it into a popular, accessible documentary film for national public television. This includes feature stories on the Amish, the 9/11 tragedy and peace-building in Northern Ireland, along with interviews with renowned Buddhist teacher Thich Nhat Hanh, Nobel Laureate Elie Wiesel, best-selling authors Thomas Moore and Marianne Williamson and others. |
| Journey Toward Forgiveness | ABC- TV | DVD | Although Alexander Pope said that “to err is human, to forgive divine,” that doesn’t mean that forgiveness is impossible or unattainable. The documentary Journey Toward Forgiveness, chronicles several stories of people at different stages of forgiveness. Some are not even ready to forgive, and others have been on a lifelong trek towards that goal. |
| http://www.bullfrogfilms.com/catalog/fgive.html | Helen Whitney | DVD | This layered film by acclaimed filmmaker Helen Whitney addresses the act of forgiveness, which is a theological principle central to all major religions, but is more and more frequently leaving the church, synagogue and mosque and hitting the fractious streets. The film covers a wide range of stories from personal betrayal to genocide. |
| http://greatergood.berkeley.edu/topic/forgiveness | Various | Web | A collection of articles on forgiveness, typically focusing on contemporary issues or newer developments in the study of forgiveness. A good resource as there are both highly targeted articles as well as overarching and broad resources on forgiveness in general |
| http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Forgiveness | Web | A general introduction to forgiveness, in true wikipedia fashion.
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| www.internationalforgiveness.com | various | Web | A website with various resources and links on forgiveness, focusing specifically on the initial action of forgiveness and how to start there, and move towards living forgiveness. A lot of the deeper resources on this website require you to buy a book, or contribute to the webite, though there are still plenty of excellent free materials. |
| www.forgivenessweb.com | various | Web | A comprehensive collection of resourses related to forgiveness including articles, film clips, audio files, and testimonials. An excellent place to start any websearch for forgiveness support.
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| http://newconversations.net/fred-luskin-two-articles-on-forgiveness/ | Fred Luskin | web | A set of two articles from forgiveness expert Dr. Frederick Luskin. One article outlines four stages of forgiveness (similar to the six steps from appendix A). The second article outlines nine steps toward forgiveness, again reminiscent of the six steps in appendix A. Together, the articles present two additional ways to approach the process of forgiving.
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| http://thisibelieve.org/theme/forgiveness/ | various | web | A collection of recordings and personal testimonies around the power of forgiveness. Excellent fodder for Tonglen practices, and for emotional support models for those similarly grappling with issues of grief, mourning and forgiveness. |
| https://www.npr.org/programs/ted-radio-hour/?showDate=2019-01-11 | TED Radio Hour | Podcast | When loss, violence or betrayal test our willingness to forgive — how do we do it anyway? This hour, TED speakers explore the challenges and benefits of forgiving others and ourselves. |
Tools (others)
The Sedona Method
http://www.squidoo.com/sedonamethodreview
http://www.squidoo.com/thesedona-method
http://www.amazon.com/The-Sedona-Method-Happiness-Well-Being/dp/0971933413
Retreats/ Immersions
http://www.harbin.org/monthly.htm
http://www.esalen.org/
http://mankindproject.org
http://www.dhamma.org/
http://nakaimaca.wordpress.com/
http://www.solsara.net/
http://www.landmarkeducation.com/
www.spiritrock.org
www.sfzc.org/tassajara/
Related Theories
www.thework.com
https://ggia.berkeley.edu/practice/eight_essentials_when_forgiving
https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/overcome_barriers_forgiveness
1st world problems http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7tppYR2ua6wMy Last Days – Soul Pancake
Cleveland Hospital http://youtu.be/cDDWvj_q-o8
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