Self-Love Resources

This is our curated collection of resources related to Self-Love. If you haven’t read it already, you can read through the Self-Love section from the beginning here.

Throughout the chapter, you’ll find a variety of subjects: The Mind, The Body, Self-Compassion, and more. You can click on the red graphic at the bottom of this page to jump around.
Additionally, we’ve gathered Practice and Exercises from the section onto one page:

Books

Books on the Body

Wisdom from Pema Chodron and Poetry from Rupi Kaur

Self-Love & Spirituality

Self-Love & Psychology

Children & Discrimination

Creating Compassionate Kids – Essential Conversations to Have with Young Children by Shauna Tominey

More Books on Self-Love

Learning to Love Yourself by Gay Hendricks

All About Love by Bell Hooks

The Great Work of Your Life – A Guide for the Journey to Your True Calling – by Stephen Cope

Videos

Insights from the School of Life

How to be a Friend to Yourself – This video from the school of life presents a core inner need that we share, and hold personally. All to homey illustrations.

On Disliking Oneself – ‘Many of us are walking around with an enormous secret burden: we deeply hate ourselves. That makes us very suspicious of anyone who likes us.’

Love and Self-Love – A helpful video from School of Life about loving yourself while in a partnership.

How to Process Your Emotions – Insightful as always, a video from the School of Life.

Videos on the Body

Self-Love, be Intentional – A TEDx talk by Caitlyn Roux. Learning through loss: cultivating a meaningful relationship with yourself.

How to Love Your Body – A TEDx talk by Sarah Doyle.

The Secret Ingredient to Feeling Good in your Body – A TEDx talk by Marla Mervis-Hartmann

Looks Aren’t Everything – Model Cameron Russell lifts the veil of supposed flawlessness in working as a model.

Why Come? Kate Shela – We forget that our body is all we have. This embodiment teacher reminds us of what it really means.

I’m Taking My Body Back – Rupi Kaur shares her poetry at TEDx.

Videos on Solitude

What a time to be alone! – Releasing the fear of being alone. | Chidera Eggerue| TEDxMauerPark

The person you really need to marry – Tracy McMillan | TEDxOlympicBlvdWomen

Videos on Self-Compassion

Being Kinder to Yourself – The science of happiness as always excellently presented by Greater Good Science Center.

The Space Between Self-Esteem and Self Compassion – Kristin Neff at TEDx Centennial Park Women

Videos on Self-Love in Children

The Representation Project: Rewrite the Story – This project invites the viewer to take a pledge not to assign their children to destructive gender roles from birth.

The Mask You Live In – Trailer – Exploring America’s narrow definition of masculinity and the harm it causes boys and men.

More Videos on Self-Love

Fake it Till You Make It – This TED talk by Amy Cuddy is one of the most-watched of all time, and offers a powerful antidote to self-doubt.

The Power of Mantra – This TED talk given by Bhava Ram tells the story of being close to death and hearing three words from his son that inspired him to take control of his life.

Looks Aren’t Everything – Model Cameron Russell lifts the veil of supposed flawlessness in working as a model.

What is the Ego? – A video interview with Wayne Dyer.

Ego is the Enemy – “If i ask you to list down all the miseries of your life, all the problems that you constantly encounter, regardless of its nature, its one way or another connected to your ego.”

Stop Sabotaging Yourself – A TEDx talk by Leading health, mindset, and lifestyle coach Debi Silber.

Cultivating Unconditional Self-Worth – An uplifting and empowering TEDx talk from Adia Gooden

Helpful Websites:

  • Hendricks Institute – Gay Hendricks’s website offers ample resources, both free and paid, including courses.
  • The Work of Byron Katie – This can be a helpful resource for many aspects of personal growth. For years, Katie has helped millions to live better lives.
  • Rupi Kaur is an Indian-born Canadian poet, performer, and illustrator. Her poems plant seeds of transformation, and her drawings deliver messages of healing and hope to her readers worldwide.

On Self-Sabotage:

On Self-Compassion:

Self-Love and Children:

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On Body and Body Image:

On Abuse:

On Discrimination:

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Quotes

“I want to know if you can be alone with yourself and if you truly like the company you keep in the empty moments.”- The Invitation, Oriah Mountaindreamer

“I want to know if you can sit with pain, mine or your own, without moving to hide it or fade it, or fix it.” – Oriah Mountain Dreamer’s poem The Invitation

“Compassion for oneself is often neglected in spiritual practice.” – Jack Kornfield

“The ground for compassion is established first by practicing sensitivity toward ourselves.” – Jack Kornfield

“Mature spirituality is not based on seeking perfection, on achieving some imaginary sense of purity. It is based simply on the capacity to let go and to love, to open the heart to all that is. Without ideals, the heart can turn the suffering and imperfections we encounter into the path of compassion.” – Jack Kornfield

“That is the true meaning of compassion …Complete feeling of kinship or openness…” – Pema Chodron“Rather than forgiving a “self” we forgive the experiences we are identified with. “ I forgive the shame” “I forgive the rage” Rather than trying to forgive a “self” we forgive the experiences we are identifying with.” – Tara Brach in Radical Acceptance

“It’s a miracle that you’re here at all.”- John Craigie

“Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.”― Rumi

“There have been so many times I have seen a man wanting to weep but instead beat his heart until it was unconscious.” — Nayyirah Waheed

“Like waking up from a bad dream, when we can see our own prison, we also see our potential” –Tara Brach, Phd. 

“The greatest discovery of my generation is that human beings can alter their lives by altering the attitudes of the mind.” – William James

“People are terrified of being in a body, and they forget it’s actually all they have, all they’re ever going to own, all they’re ever going to experience.” – Kate Shela, Embodiment Teacher.

“Everyone needs to be in touch with the needs of their spirit. This connectedness calls us to spiritual awakening- to love.” – Bell Hooks

“To me, the divine is the loving awareness that is our source and essence. When we pay careful attention, we see every person as an expression of the love and goodness we cherish. Every being becomes the Beloved.” – Tara Brach

“Then it was as if I suddenly saw the secret beauty of their hearts, the depth of their hearts …If only they could see themselves as they really are, if only we could see each other that way all the time, there would be no more need for war, for hatred, for greed, for cruelty. I suppose the big problem would be that we would fall down and worship each other.” – Thomas Merton

“All problems are illusions of the mind.” – Eckhart Tolle

“Until I came to terms with myself internally, I could travel to the ends of the earth and not feel at peace.” – Gay hendricks

“If I am the longest relationship of my life
Isn’t it time to nurture intimacy
And love
With the person
I lie in bed with each night
~acceptance”
-Rupi Kaur

“Mind is everything. What we think we become.” – The Buddha

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