This is our curated collection of resources related to Self-Love. If you haven’t read it already, you can read through the Self-Love section from the beginning here.
Throughout the chapter, you’ll find a variety of subjects: The Mind, The Body, Self-Compassion, and more. You can click on the red graphic at the bottom of this page to jump around.
Additionally, we’ve gathered Practice and Exercises from the section onto one page:
Books on the Body
Wisdom from Pema Chodron and Poetry from Rupi Kaur
Self-Love & Spirituality
Self-Love & Psychology
Children & Discrimination
More Books on Self-Love
Insights from the School of Life
Videos on the Body
Videos on Solitude
Videos on Self-Compassion
Videos on Self-Love in Children
More Videos on Self-Love
- Hendricks Institute – Gay Hendricks’s website offers ample resources, both free and paid, including courses.
- The Work of Byron Katie – This can be a helpful resource for many aspects of personal growth. For years, Katie has helped millions to live better lives.
- Rupi Kaur is an Indian-born Canadian poet, performer, and illustrator. Her poems plant seeds of transformation, and her drawings deliver messages of healing and hope to her readers worldwide.
- What Are Your Self-Sabotage Triggers? – An article from Psychology Today: Take control and learn how to stop self-defeating behaviors in their tracks.
- 5 Ways to Stop Sabotaging Yourself – First, give up dwelling on “If only…” ( If only I hadn’t dropped out of college).
- Why We Self-Sabotage – And what factors cause you to flip the switch.
- 8 Ways to Stop Self-Sabotaging Your Success – The world will put countless obstacles in your path but none will be as big as the ones you create for yourself.
Self-Love and Children:
- Five Ways to Talk with Your Kids So They Feel Loved – These warm, nurturing messages need repeating over and over again with our children.
- The Effect of Social Media in Young Girls – An article by Huffpost
- Greater Competition for College Places Means Higher Anxiety, Too – From the New York Times
- Six Ways to Help Girls Become Strong Women in a Sexist World – A new book reviews some of the pressures girls face in today’s culture and what we can do to help them.
More Tools and Links:
- Find a Therapist Near You – By Psychology Today.
- Find a Therapist through Open Path
- Why kids and teens may face far more anxiety these days – an article by Washington post.
- Lovingkindness Meditation with Jack Kornfield – this 12-minute audio clip will guide you through a practice of ‘metta’ or loving kindness in a simple, easy way.
- The Blissful Mind – 25 Daily Affirmations to Improve Your Mindset
- Al-Anon’s Slogans – “You may have heard some of these slogans hundreds of times before without ever taking them seriously or trying to put them to work. After all, they are clichés, and easy to disregard. But it is their very simplicity that makes them so powerful.”
- The Three Raindrops – This simple little story shows the human condition of comparing ourselves to others and the mess this pattern leads us to.
- “Likes” for Self-Love? The Effects of Social Media on Self-Perception – Elizabeth Gallinari
On Body and Body Image:
- Recovery Warriors – eating disorder resource and creative outlet
- On Being In Your Body – resource for workshops, online courses, and retreats that guide individuals to embrace and embody themselves.
- Give Back Yoga, Kripalu.org, and Mind and Life – These are each helpful yoga resources.
- 5 Rhythms – A form of dance therapy, in a sense.
- Back In My Body – A song by Maggie Rogers acknowledging her relationship to her body.
- Instagram: motives for its use and relationship to narcissism and contextual age
- Vogel, Roberts, and Eckles (2014) revealed that viewing social media profiles with positive content was associated with low self-esteem.
- Studies conducted by Burrow and Rainone (2017) have suggested that receiving a greater number of “likes” reliably predicted greater self-esteem. The two researchers also based their examinations on the sociometer theory, which supports the idea that self-esteem is calibrated based on inclusion or rejection within a social environment. Facebook’s like button can help fuel this sense of inclusion or rejection, since others can choose to like or ignore a post.
- Facebook interaction has led to feelings of low self-worth and low self-perception (de Vries &Kühne, 2015).
- De Vries, D. A., & Kühne, R. (2015). Facebook and self-perception: Individual susceptibility to negative social comparison on facebook. Personality And Individual Differences, 86217- 221. doi:10.1016/j.paid.2015.05.029
- Festinger, L. (1954). A theory of social comparison processes. Human Relations, 7117-140. doi:10.1177/001872675400700202
- Vogel, E. A., Rose, J. P., Okdie, B. M., Eckles, K., & Franz, B. (2015). Who compares and despairs? The effect of social comparison orientation on social media use and its outcomes. Personality And Individual Differences,86249-256. doi:10.1016/j.paid.2015.06.026
- Vogel, E. A., Rose, J. P., Roberts, L. R., & Eckles, K. (2014). Social comparison, social media, and self-esteem. Psychology Of Popular Media Culture, 3(4), 206-222. doi:10.1037/ppm0000047
“I want to know if you can be alone with yourself and if you truly like the company you keep in the empty moments.”- The Invitation, Oriah Mountaindreamer
“I want to know if you can sit with pain, mine or your own, without moving to hide it or fade it, or fix it.” – Oriah Mountain Dreamer’s poem The Invitation
“Compassion for oneself is often neglected in spiritual practice.” – Jack Kornfield
“The ground for compassion is established first by practicing sensitivity toward ourselves.” – Jack Kornfield
“Mature spirituality is not based on seeking perfection, on achieving some imaginary sense of purity. It is based simply on the capacity to let go and to love, to open the heart to all that is. Without ideals, the heart can turn the suffering and imperfections we encounter into the path of compassion.” – Jack Kornfield
“That is the true meaning of compassion …Complete feeling of kinship or openness…” – Pema Chodron“Rather than forgiving a “self” we forgive the experiences we are identified with. “ I forgive the shame” “I forgive the rage” Rather than trying to forgive a “self” we forgive the experiences we are identifying with.” – Tara Brach in Radical Acceptance
“It’s a miracle that you’re here at all.”- John Craigie
“Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.”― Rumi
“There have been so many times I have seen a man wanting to weep but instead beat his heart until it was unconscious.” — Nayyirah Waheed
“Like waking up from a bad dream, when we can see our own prison, we also see our potential” –Tara Brach, Phd.
“The greatest discovery of my generation is that human beings can alter their lives by altering the attitudes of the mind.” – William James
“People are terrified of being in a body, and they forget it’s actually all they have, all they’re ever going to own, all they’re ever going to experience.” – Kate Shela, Embodiment Teacher.
“Everyone needs to be in touch with the needs of their spirit. This connectedness calls us to spiritual awakening- to love.” – Bell Hooks
“To me, the divine is the loving awareness that is our source and essence. When we pay careful attention, we see every person as an expression of the love and goodness we cherish. Every being becomes the Beloved.” – Tara Brach
“Then it was as if I suddenly saw the secret beauty of their hearts, the depth of their hearts …If only they could see themselves as they really are, if only we could see each other that way all the time, there would be no more need for war, for hatred, for greed, for cruelty. I suppose the big problem would be that we would fall down and worship each other.” – Thomas Merton
“All problems are illusions of the mind.” – Eckhart Tolle
“Until I came to terms with myself internally, I could travel to the ends of the earth and not feel at peace.” – Gay hendricks
“If I am the longest relationship of my life
Isn’t it time to nurture intimacy
With the person
I lie in bed with each night
“Mind is everything. What we think we become.” – The Buddha