The purpose of our model is to assist you in framing meaning and purpose throughout life.
And the purpose of any good model is to give its users a concise and memorable method of zooming out, remembering the model’s structure with ease, like “Right, things basically fall into these categories…”
Concerning your experience of meaning and purpose IN life, there are 4 primary sources: Expression, Discovery/Exploration, Love, and Service.
Each of these is a domain from which the experience of meaning grows. There is interplay between them, but otherwise the model is very simple. Through this lens, a purpose-filled life is easy to understand: remember the 4 cornerstones.
There are intricacies that take the “Fridge Poster” version of the model to the daily, lived experience level, and everything in-between.  The Enablers, for example, offer frames and ways to enhance meaning. The Hindrances offer specific ways to understand and deal with the two main stumbling blocks of meaning and joy.  Check out the table at the bottom of the home page for some other suggested areas to explore.
If you have any thoughts or insights about this model and would like to contribute, please get in touch with us. We’d love to hear from you.

Expression

Expression can be an imprint of individualism we bring to the world, a reveling in a sense of free will, a finding of our own voice.
When we engage with expression, we feel a cathartic “Yes, I am alive! I am real and I can do things!”. We attain a strong sense of unique experience and authenticity.
On the special power of expression…well, Robin Williams’ character said it well in the film Dead Poet’s Society:
“We don’t read and write poetry because it’s cute. We read and write poetry because we are members of the human race. And the human race is filled with passion. And medicine, law, business, engineering, these are noble pursuits and necessary to sustain life. But poetry, beauty, romance, love, these are what we stay alive for.”

Learn more about the meaning and purpose behind expression here:

Discovery / Exploration

Discovery contributes a versatile and contextual meaning in our lives. Discovery does not constitute a meaningful life without being complemented by and interwoven with the other three experiences of purpose: Love, Service, and Expression.
Discovery itself is especially fulfilling when done with the intention of growth and understanding something larger than the self. Introspection, discovery of the self–especially discovery of the self within context of a larger whole–are the gems of this cornerstone. By questing to comprehend ourselves to a greater degree through exposure to the unknown and diligent self-reflection, we can connect with, and live into, multiple ways of being that feel meaningful to us.

Love

Love is a doozy.
You may love it. You may hate it. You may even love to hate it.
There is no question that Love is a (often mysterious) torrential power in our lives.
And love can take many forms. The English language is poorly equipped to deal with the many types of love we can experience.
The Ancient Greeks identified 8 different types of love:
  • “Eros” or Erotic Love.
  • “Philia” or Affectionate Love.
  • “Storge” or Familiar Love.
  • “Ludus” or Playful Love.
  • “Mania” or Obsessive Love.
  • “Pragma” or Enduring Love.
  • “Philautia” or Self Love.
  • “Agape” or Selfless Love.
Love, whether as an expression or a feeling, is a culmination of our vast complexity as a species.
In our section on love you will find a helpful collection of resources spanning a diversity of topics. You’ll learn methods for conflict resolution, up-to-date models for assessing and foster healthy relationships, how to communicate based on needs, and much more. Here are some of the other things you’ll find inside: Couple Rituals, Dating, EFT / Attachment Theory, Marriage / Life commitment, The Sound Relationship House, and Loads more…

Service

Service is the giving that gives back.
When we contribute to something or someone that we sincerely care about, we feel a sense of meaning and purpose. The nature of this cornerstone is probably the most easy to grasp of the four. Simply put, taking action for reasons that we believe in feels much better than doing something for no reason, or despite our beliefs.
What is Altruism? Can I serve others by listening? What are some virtues of service?
Together with numerous resources on where we can volunteer and work, links and videos of inspiration and exploration, this section will motivate you to give, and live a life of joy in doing so.