The Loss List

By displaying loss in all of its painful iterations, we hope that readers will see that loss is a common, shared experience, and that each one connects to a deep place within us that loves and wants to be loved.

Next time you walk out in the world, consider the losses people around you are carrying and know that you are not alone. Loss is as human as breathing (and recall that each breath carries with it a loss of CO2, which allows for more life-giving oxygen to flow in).

Below is a comprehensive list of losses and their associated secondary losses.

We believe looking at these connections will be eye-opening for many people. Please give things a look, and don’t hesitate to tell us what you think.
We would also be interested in any additions you may have.

Loss of…

 

Belonging Financial Stability Partner
Caretaker Future Predictability
Caretaking Role Home Role
Companion Hope Safety
Compass Intimacy Secret-Keeper
Connection to Past Legacy Self-Image
Familiarity Memory Social Status
Normalcy Visibility
Nurturance

Belonging Connection to Past Innocence
Caretaker Culture Intimacy
Caretaking Role Familiarity Memory
Companion Financial Stability Normalcy
Compass History/Ancestry Nurturance
Home Role
Safety

 

Caretaking Role Home Predictability
Companion Hope Purpose
Competency Intimacy Role
Familiarity Legacy
Sense of Stability in Others (from watching others grieve)
Future Normalcy Social Status
Visibility

 

Belonging Connection to Past Normalcy
Caretaker Familiarity Partner
Caretaking Role Future Role
Companion History/Ancestry Secret-Keeper
Compass Home
Sense of Stability in Others (from watching others grieve)
Intimacy Memory

 

Belonging Connection to Past Intimacy
Caretaker Culture Memory
Caretaking Role Familiarity Normalcy
Companion History/Ancestry Nurturance
Compass Home Role
Secret-Keeper

 

Carelessness/Whimsy Normalcy Safety
Caretaking Role Public Acknowledgement
**These losses are not publically acknowledged regularly
Self-Image
Energy/Stamina Purpose
Sense of Stability in Others (from watching others grieve)
Future Role Sexual Freedom
Hope Social Status
Legacy Visibility

 

Belonging Familiarity Normalcy
Caretaking Role Future Partner
Companion Home
Public Acknowledgement
**These losses are not publically acknowledged regularly
Compass Intimacy Role
Connection to Past Memory Secret-Keeper

 

Activity Home
Public Acknowledgement
**These losses are not publically acknowledged regularly
Caretaking Role Intimacy Role
Companion Memory Secret-Keeper
Familiarity Normalcy Visibility
Future Partner

 

Belonging Nurturance Secret-Keeper
Compass Public Acknowledgement
**These losses are not publically acknowledged regularly
Values
Intimacy Purpose Visibility
Memory Safety

 

Belonging Future
Public Acknowledgement
**These losses are not publically acknowledged regularly
Companion History/Ancestry Role
Compass Home Secret-Keeper
Connection to Past Intimacy
Sense of Stability in Others (from watching others grieve)
Familiarity Memory Visibility

 

Bodily Autonomy Future Purpose
Carelessness/Whimsy Home Respect
Caretaking Role Hope Role
Competency Independence Safety
Control Legacy Self-Image
Ease Normalcy Social Status
Public Acknowledgement
**These losses are not publically acknowledged regularly

 

Connection to Past Future Predictability
Control History/Ancestry Purpose
Ease Hope Self-Image
Familiarity Innocence Values
Freedom Normalcy

 

Belonging Future Predictability
Compass History/Ancestry
Public Acknowledgement
**These losses are not publically acknowledged regularly
Control Home Purpose
Culture Hope Respect
Ease Innocence Safety
Familiarity Legacy Self-Image
Freedom Memory Social Status
Normalcy Values

 

Activity Freedom Presence
Bodily Autonomy Future
Public Acknowledgement
**These losses are not publically acknowledged regularly
Carelessness/Whimsy Hope Respect
Competency Independence Role
Control Innocence Safety
Ease Invisibility Self-Image
Energy/Stamina Normalcy Sexual Freedom
Familiarity Predictability Social Status
Financial Stability
Visibility

 

Bodily Autonomy Freedom Predictability
Carelessness/Whimsy Future
Public Acknowledgement
**These losses are not publically acknowledged regularly
Competency Independence Respect
Control Invisibility Role
Ease Normalcy Safety
Energy/Stamina Financial Stability Self-Image
Familiarity Visibility Social Status

 

Bodily Autonomy Hope Predictability
Carelessness/Whimsy Independence Presence
Control Innocence
Public Acknowledgement
**These losses are not publically acknowledged regularly
Ease Intimacy Respect
Energy/Stamina Memory Safety
Familiarity Normalcy Self-Image
Freedom Nurturance
Sense of Stability in Others (from watching others grieve)
Future Visibility

 

Activity Future Presence
Belonging Hope
Public Acknowledgement
**These losses are not publically acknowledged regularly
Bodily Autonomy Independence Respect
Carelessness/Whimsy Innocence Safety
Competency Intimacy Self-Image
Control Invisibility
Sense of Stability in Others (from watching others grieve)
Ease Memory Sexual Freedom
Energy/Stamina Normalcy Social Status
Familiarity Nurturance Visibility
Freedom Predictability

 

Belonging Future Memory
Connection to Past History/Ancestry Normalcy
Control Home Predictability
Culture Language
Public Acknowledgement
**These losses are not publically acknowledged regularly
Familiarity Legacy

 

Belonging Home Purpose
Bodily Autonomy Hope Respect
Carelessness/Whimsy Independence Safety
Connection to Past Innocence Self-Image
Control Invisibility
Sense of Stability in Others (from watching others grieve)
Culture Language Sexual Freedom
Ease Legacy Social Status
Familiarity Memory Visibility
Financial Stability Normalcy
Freedom Nurturance
Future Predictability
History/Ancestry
Public Acknowledgement
**These losses are not publically acknowledged regularly

 

Belonging History/Ancestry Predictability
Bodily Autonomy Home
Public Acknowledgement
**These losses are not publically acknowledged regularly
Carelessness/Whimsy Hope Purpose
Connection to Past Independence Respect
Control Innocence Safety
Culture Invisibility Self-Image
Ease Language
Sense of Stability in Others (from watching others grieve)
Familiarity Legacy Sexual Freedom
Financial Stability Memory Social Status
Freedom Normalcy Visibility
Future Nurturance

 

Activity Financial Stability
Public Acknowledgement
**These losses are not publically acknowledged regularly
Belonging Freedom Purpose
Carelessness/Whimsy Future Respect
Compass Independence Role
Competency Legacy Safety
Control Normalcy Self-Image
Familiarity Predictability Social Status

 

Belonging Future Partner
Caretaker Home Predictability
Caretaking Role Hope Role
Companion Intimacy Secret-Keeper
Compass Legacy Self-Image
Connection to Past Memory
Sense of Stability in Others (from watching others grieve)
Control Normalcy Social Status
Familiarity Nurturance Visibility
Financial Stability

 

Activity Financial Stability Role
Belonging Normalcy Self-Image
Compass Predictability Social Status
Competency Purpose Visibility
Familiarity

 

Activity Familiarity Role
Belonging Normalcy Self-Image
Carelessness/Whimsy Predictability Social Status
Competency Purpose

 

Carelessness/Whimsy Financial Stability Predictability
Competency Future
Public Acknowledgement
**These losses are not publically acknowledged regularly
Control Hope Secret-Keeper
Ease Independence Social Status
Familiarity Normalcy Visibility
Nurturance

 

Belonging Home
Public Acknowledgement
**These losses are not publically acknowledged regularly
Bodily Autonomy Hope Respect
Carelessness/Whimsy Independence Safety
Connection to Past Innocence Self-Image
Control Intimacy
Sense of Stability in Others (from watching others grieve)
Ease Memory Sexual Freedom
Energy/Stamina Normalcy Values
Familiarity Nurturance Visibility
Freedom Predictability
Presence

 

Belonging Home
Public Acknowledgement
**These losses are not publically acknowledged regularly
Compass Intimacy Respect
Connection to Past Legacy Role
Familiarity Normalcy
Sense of Stability in Others (from watching others grieve)
Future Nurturance Visibility
History/Ancestry

 

Activity Financial Stability Normalcy
Bodily Autonomy Freedom Nurturance
Carelessness/Whimsy Future Predictability
Caretaking Role History/Ancestry Presence
Compass Home Respect
Competency Hope Role
Connection to Past Independence Safety
Control Intimacy Self-Image
Ease Legacy
Sense of Stability in Others (from watching others grieve)
Energy/Stamina Memory Social Status
Familiarity

 

Connection to Past Home Normalcy
Familiarity Legacy Predictability
History/Ancestry Memory
Public Acknowledgement
**These losses are not publically acknowledged regularly

 

Bodily Autonomy Freedom Presence
Carelessness/Whimsy Home Role
Caretaking Role Independence Safety
Control Innocence Sexual Freedom
Ease Normalcy Visibility
Familiarity Predictability
Financial Stability

Remember, Loss is Normal, loss takes many forms, and Grief is okay.